Never alone
I don’t care much for wintertime. I could do without autumn too. To me the fall is a precursor to a solid 6 months of cold. I watch the trees, and with each strong gust setting a flurry of brown leaves to the ground, my heart sinks a touch more.
I don’t mean to be a downer; there are plenty of things I appreciate about frigid temperatures: warm mugs of tea, hot bathes, a roaring fireplace, and putting up the Christmas tree. I enjoy cozy, but I’m more of a summer gal.
No matter whether you love or hate winter, the truth is, most of us pass the months hunkered down in our respective homes which means less time outdoors in the sun connecting with nature and less time socializing with friends. It’s just what happens from November through April (sometimes May if we get a good dose of spring snow here in Colorado), and it makes me feel lonely.
But am I really lonely? Or am I simply alone?
There is a clear distinction between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone is physical while feeling lonely is emotional. They are mutually exclusive: one does not beget the other.
If no one is around, you are obviously alone, but this does not dictate loneliness. Physical distance does not mandate emotional distance, and physical proximity does not guarantee emotional proximity; you can physically sit in a room with thirty people and feel completely disconnected from the people in the room. That’s loneliness. Alternatively, you can be alone and feel connected to people on the opposite end of the earth. Emotional closeness does not demand physicality, and thankfully, this is in your control.
If you decide you are not lonely, you will not feel lonely.
The absolute truth is this: No matter how lonely you feel, you are never truly alone. You are inextricably connected to source energy. Get quiet and feel into your heart space. You will soon realize you are not alone. Ever. This connection to the ethereal is a powerful antidote to loneliness, one which phenomenally encourages and supports connection with others, near or far.
The goal is to feel emotionally present AND connected to source while with others. That feeling is incomparable.
Sometimes feeling connected, whether alone or in the presence of others, is too hard a task. This is especially true while grieving, and if you pay close enough attention, you are always grieving something. When all else fails go inward and connect to Self. Make friends with you! Learn to enjoy your own presence. Become pals with your Higher Power (your Higher Self) and let it fill your cup, so you do not have to rely on another person, place, or thing to do it for you. And when another person wants to do that for you, and you allow them, it lessens your loneliness and increases your fulfillment.
Your contentment must first come from within before anyone can add to it.
